How many times have you been let down? Maybe you went to an interview and got turned down for the job, maybe the girl/boy you liked said no when you asked them out? We all make decisions everyday of our lives whether good or bad. Most of us make bad decisions we allow ourselves to go through our lives without consciously making our decisions we don't even think we make them. In other worlds we make our surroundings make our decisions for us. For example we allow our surrounding to make us get upset, our job our family life and maybe even our friends and acquaintances. If we become upset with these things we have made a decision to tolerate them. Until you wake up one morning and (decide) enough is enough we make the decision to remain as we are. Most likely because that is as far as our comfort zone takes us.
Everything we decide to do in our lives has a bigger impact on our lives than most of us know. When we are lost we may come to a two way junction with an option to turn left or right. What ever way we decide to turn, that way is the way we choose to take in life. Ultimately either way we choose will change our lives in some way or another whether good or bad. The same is true for relationships and career opportunities etc.
So how do we make the right decisions? There is no way to be 100% positive if something is the right decision or the wrong decision but one tip is don't let yourself think too long and hard to make a decision just take the decision and then and I can't stress this hard enough TAKE ACTION. When we decide on something that we will do if we take action we have taking the biggest step most likely the most difficult step. Once we take action do not be afraid to change how you are making something work it's the result you care about, the end result is what we are after. Not how you will get there.
Every now and then you will make bad decisions everyone does but bad decisions are not bad decisions. Sounds stupid doesn't it? Well it's true because they teach us more in the long term than good decision can teach us. Why because bad decisions teach us what not to do again they teach us what to try or what not to try next time. So don't beat yourself up about taking a bad decision, instead make another decision and learn from your mistakes.
Decisions may be hard to make at 1st but the great new is making decisions is just like taking up weight lifting. What do I mean? When you start weight lifting you can't just jump straight in and lift an 80kg weight and if you do you will hurt yourself. You have to start small and exercise your muscles then weight lifting will become easier over time. Then and only then can we lift heavier weights. The same is true with decisions. You can start small and build yourself up, get yourself used to making decisions. But most importantly make sure you make decisions often. The more we make decisions the easier we will find making decisions.
So remember our decisions shape who and where we are in our lives. If you find yourself hating your life then it is about time to make better decisions start your road to recovery now and TAKE ACTION. I can't do it for you, you have to help yourself and I wish you good luck...
Saturday, 16 July 2011
Thursday, 14 July 2011
A life of positivity Versus A life of negetivity.
This is where you have to make a choice of what you want in your life or from your life? Do you want a big car, big house, the promotion at work that you deserve, lots of friends (real friends) and a great wife/husband with maybe even a cozy little family? Or do you want to live in fear of the tax man, the bailiffs, have a small shack for a house, be a widow, with only friends that will use you and a dead end job that you work your ass off at without any recognition from your colleagues or your boss?
Neither of these maybe exactly what you want in life but I could probably place my life on the fact that there is no doubt that you would prefer the 1st option (who wouldn't?). If you would prefer to live in fear of the bailiffs then I seriously think you should consider checking in with a psychiatrist. I'm serious there because myself and 99.9% of people would think of this as the nightmare of all nightmares.
the great thing is that no matter who you are, what you look like how old you are, or how much money you currently have in you bank account you can choose to live like either of these examples. How can you do that you may be asking me? By making a CHOICE. A choice to be positive in everything that you do. Go to work with a smile on your face today and feel the difference it makes, don't be so negative when you 1st go in. Go in upbeat and greet your co workers with a pleasantry and a smile. By doing this you maybe surprised with the reaction from your co workers and hell it may even rub onto them. You will feel better and happier within yourself not to mention the benefits that your co workers will gain form your upbeat attitude.
Every action we do we do when we make a decision to do it. Every decision we make shapes our lives. For example if we decide to go through your life with a negative attitude then we will get poor results because we won't believe in the things that we are doing. We won't believe that we can achieve any goals or challenges that are both given to us or we make ourselves. On the other hand if we choose to be positive in everything that we do then we can learn to expect good positive results with everything that we do.
If we can change our thoughts to be positive almost all of the time then we should and will get positive results. But we can only learn to think positively through habit, if we are negative in life this is through habit also. To change one habit the easiest way to do this is by replacing it with another habit. In this case change your negative thoughts with positive thoughts. So how do we turn positive thoughts into being a habit that we will also do subconsciously? The answer is simple, through repetition. If we repeat things over and over again we will start to believe and this is what you must learn to do, you must learn to believe. You will believe if you try to be positive for a couple of days that being positive can change your surroundings for the better. Just try it for a couple of days and if you don't see a difference in your life then by all means you can throw in the towel and say that I have being speaking crap. But I can guarantee 100% that you will notice a difference if you keep your eyes open to it. Whether it's in your own life or the way people act towards you, you will see the benefits of thinking and acting positively in everything that you do.
So back to our main point, the man or woman that gains the benefits from everything that they do in there lives is the man or woman that has gone through life with a positive mental attitude. Those who sit and whinge about how life has throwing them a bad hand and they have no luck are doomed to fail forever. They will never succeed in anything that they want to succeed in because they have stuck in there head that they will fail. If we believe that we will succeed then we 100% will find a way to succeed. No matter if we are dealt with temporally failure, we will find another way to succeed until we have what we want. So never give up and think positively with everything that you do.
Neither of these maybe exactly what you want in life but I could probably place my life on the fact that there is no doubt that you would prefer the 1st option (who wouldn't?). If you would prefer to live in fear of the bailiffs then I seriously think you should consider checking in with a psychiatrist. I'm serious there because myself and 99.9% of people would think of this as the nightmare of all nightmares.
the great thing is that no matter who you are, what you look like how old you are, or how much money you currently have in you bank account you can choose to live like either of these examples. How can you do that you may be asking me? By making a CHOICE. A choice to be positive in everything that you do. Go to work with a smile on your face today and feel the difference it makes, don't be so negative when you 1st go in. Go in upbeat and greet your co workers with a pleasantry and a smile. By doing this you maybe surprised with the reaction from your co workers and hell it may even rub onto them. You will feel better and happier within yourself not to mention the benefits that your co workers will gain form your upbeat attitude.
Every action we do we do when we make a decision to do it. Every decision we make shapes our lives. For example if we decide to go through your life with a negative attitude then we will get poor results because we won't believe in the things that we are doing. We won't believe that we can achieve any goals or challenges that are both given to us or we make ourselves. On the other hand if we choose to be positive in everything that we do then we can learn to expect good positive results with everything that we do.
If we can change our thoughts to be positive almost all of the time then we should and will get positive results. But we can only learn to think positively through habit, if we are negative in life this is through habit also. To change one habit the easiest way to do this is by replacing it with another habit. In this case change your negative thoughts with positive thoughts. So how do we turn positive thoughts into being a habit that we will also do subconsciously? The answer is simple, through repetition. If we repeat things over and over again we will start to believe and this is what you must learn to do, you must learn to believe. You will believe if you try to be positive for a couple of days that being positive can change your surroundings for the better. Just try it for a couple of days and if you don't see a difference in your life then by all means you can throw in the towel and say that I have being speaking crap. But I can guarantee 100% that you will notice a difference if you keep your eyes open to it. Whether it's in your own life or the way people act towards you, you will see the benefits of thinking and acting positively in everything that you do.
So back to our main point, the man or woman that gains the benefits from everything that they do in there lives is the man or woman that has gone through life with a positive mental attitude. Those who sit and whinge about how life has throwing them a bad hand and they have no luck are doomed to fail forever. They will never succeed in anything that they want to succeed in because they have stuck in there head that they will fail. If we believe that we will succeed then we 100% will find a way to succeed. No matter if we are dealt with temporally failure, we will find another way to succeed until we have what we want. So never give up and think positively with everything that you do.
Wednesday, 13 July 2011
When you feel down...
Everyone feels down sometimes no matter how positive they are there will come a day when nothing seems to be going their way. When this day comes to you, you may well feel like throwing the towel in and saying whats the point? Well simply don't give in to your urge to quit, it is easy to quit and anything that comes easily to us tends to be bad. Nothing should come easily because then everyone would be rich and that couldn't work. Life has to be made to be fun and if things come so easily then it would just be plain boring, we wouldn't have to do anything, we would just sit in front of the television knowing what was happening elsewhere and where would the enjoyment be in that?
When you feel so down and maybe feel negative about everyone and everything, take a step back and think about it for a moment. Think of a happy time in your life when you succeeded. It doesn't have to be about a major success if you can't think of one it could maybe be a great goal you scored in football maybe even when you 1st met the love of your life. Anything you have done good at is a success. Zone into your happy zone and force yourself to smile. Keep smiling even if you want to scream just smile and think of your success you should find yourself more calm in a couple of minutes and be ready to face them tough challenges that were getting you down so badly just a couple of minutes before. Always remember no matter how bad today is today, tomorrow is another day and no two days are ever the same. Think about it yesterday was not the same as today was it? Unless you are in a jail cell in which case I ask the question, how are you managing to read this?
Remember challenges are your friend they make life enjoyable and although you may not think you can accomplish certain challenges that life throws at you, you CAN nothing is impossible. YOU CAN IF YOU THINK YOU CAN!!! Sometimes success is at the end of temporarily defeat, keep trying no matter what, you can't be defeated if you never give up, can you?
When you feel so down and maybe feel negative about everyone and everything, take a step back and think about it for a moment. Think of a happy time in your life when you succeeded. It doesn't have to be about a major success if you can't think of one it could maybe be a great goal you scored in football maybe even when you 1st met the love of your life. Anything you have done good at is a success. Zone into your happy zone and force yourself to smile. Keep smiling even if you want to scream just smile and think of your success you should find yourself more calm in a couple of minutes and be ready to face them tough challenges that were getting you down so badly just a couple of minutes before. Always remember no matter how bad today is today, tomorrow is another day and no two days are ever the same. Think about it yesterday was not the same as today was it? Unless you are in a jail cell in which case I ask the question, how are you managing to read this?
Remember challenges are your friend they make life enjoyable and although you may not think you can accomplish certain challenges that life throws at you, you CAN nothing is impossible. YOU CAN IF YOU THINK YOU CAN!!! Sometimes success is at the end of temporarily defeat, keep trying no matter what, you can't be defeated if you never give up, can you?
Tuesday, 12 July 2011
My Number One Tip
GOALS, GOALS GOALS, oh and did I say already GOALS!!!!!
If we want to achieve anything in life we must set our self Goals. They must always challenge our abilities but they must also be achievable. Don't set a goal such as I will go down to the shop in five minutes and buy a DVD that would be a useless goal and unless you have the flu and are in bed, that would hardly test your abilities. The opposite is also true don't set a goal such as I will earn £100,000 by this time tomorrow unless you are Bill Gates then you will most likely fall massively short of achieving your goal.
What kind of goals you should set yourself depend on how an accomplished person you are and will vary massively from person to person depending on your knowledge, Income levels and Occupation. I can not stress the fact that the goals you should be setting yourself should be difficult to achieve but on the other hand achievable.
Why should we set Goals to increase our confidence levels? Simple although it may not already be obvious to you, the more we achieve then the more confident of ourselves we shall become. Once we set these goals they should be planned out, we must plan on how we will achieve the outcome that we long for. If we can plan well we will have more chance to achieve our goal. Once we have achieved our goal it is time to set a new goal and keep going after that. After you achieve your 1st goal you should already notice your confidence increasing.
So what happens if I fail with my goal? Sadly your confidence will take a knock there is no way of avoiding this. But know that everyone fails no matter who they are. The most successful people fail, The entrepreneur 'theo Pathitis' failed in business before, but initial failure is NOT permanent. If at 1st you fail try and try again until you succeed. If after 3 or more times you still fail, look at your goal and maybe it could be worth making it easier to achieve. It maybe that the goal is temporally out of your reach, so try and make your goal easier to achieve. If you set a target of increasing your income by£5000 in one month either increase the time limit by one or more months or maybe adjust the amount to £2500 or £1000. If you pass this time it should make your initial goal easier to accomplish.
So go out and set yourself some goals not only does it increase your confidence ten fold (when you succeed) it can also be a lot of fun.
If we want to achieve anything in life we must set our self Goals. They must always challenge our abilities but they must also be achievable. Don't set a goal such as I will go down to the shop in five minutes and buy a DVD that would be a useless goal and unless you have the flu and are in bed, that would hardly test your abilities. The opposite is also true don't set a goal such as I will earn £100,000 by this time tomorrow unless you are Bill Gates then you will most likely fall massively short of achieving your goal.
What kind of goals you should set yourself depend on how an accomplished person you are and will vary massively from person to person depending on your knowledge, Income levels and Occupation. I can not stress the fact that the goals you should be setting yourself should be difficult to achieve but on the other hand achievable.
Why should we set Goals to increase our confidence levels? Simple although it may not already be obvious to you, the more we achieve then the more confident of ourselves we shall become. Once we set these goals they should be planned out, we must plan on how we will achieve the outcome that we long for. If we can plan well we will have more chance to achieve our goal. Once we have achieved our goal it is time to set a new goal and keep going after that. After you achieve your 1st goal you should already notice your confidence increasing.
So what happens if I fail with my goal? Sadly your confidence will take a knock there is no way of avoiding this. But know that everyone fails no matter who they are. The most successful people fail, The entrepreneur 'theo Pathitis' failed in business before, but initial failure is NOT permanent. If at 1st you fail try and try again until you succeed. If after 3 or more times you still fail, look at your goal and maybe it could be worth making it easier to achieve. It maybe that the goal is temporally out of your reach, so try and make your goal easier to achieve. If you set a target of increasing your income by£5000 in one month either increase the time limit by one or more months or maybe adjust the amount to £2500 or £1000. If you pass this time it should make your initial goal easier to accomplish.
So go out and set yourself some goals not only does it increase your confidence ten fold (when you succeed) it can also be a lot of fun.
Monday, 11 July 2011
Believe in yourself
Self-confidence can only come to you through habit. What I mean by this is self-confidence can only be acquired by repeatedly doing things that make you believe in yourself. If you can lie to yourself and repeat it every hour for a whole week the chances are you will begin to believe the lie is true. Well if that is true (which it is) then that means if we tell ourselves something over and over again then we will begin to believe it. This is how we can teach ourselves to be confident, by repeatedly thinking or speaking of things that make us positive.
So what can you do that is positive. First and probably the most important of all the things you can do to make your self more confident is to smile. Even when you don't feel like you want to smile try it, it can't hurt you so why not? It has been proven that if you smile even it is a false smile, a chemical gets released into the brain that makes you more happy. So smiling not only can make you more confident, smiling can also help against depression.
Secondly you need to start ignoring people especially your parents. Now I do not mean ignore everything that you are told but you will have to learn what to listen to and which to ignore. Phrases like, don't be so stupid and that will never work, do the most harm to your confidence. Most people do not even realize that they cause their kids all sorts of harm by saying these types of things to them. When you hear somebody using these phrases, either plug your ears or walk away.
If you just practice these two techniques then I can guarantee you will begin to feel more confident within a couple of weeks, but if you stop once your feeling more confident of yourself you will lose your confidence just as quickly. Remember to keep at it and keep coming back here to get more hints and tips to get you on the road to recovery. I recommend that you come back every week for new techniques that were not available before.
So what can you do that is positive. First and probably the most important of all the things you can do to make your self more confident is to smile. Even when you don't feel like you want to smile try it, it can't hurt you so why not? It has been proven that if you smile even it is a false smile, a chemical gets released into the brain that makes you more happy. So smiling not only can make you more confident, smiling can also help against depression.
Secondly you need to start ignoring people especially your parents. Now I do not mean ignore everything that you are told but you will have to learn what to listen to and which to ignore. Phrases like, don't be so stupid and that will never work, do the most harm to your confidence. Most people do not even realize that they cause their kids all sorts of harm by saying these types of things to them. When you hear somebody using these phrases, either plug your ears or walk away.
If you just practice these two techniques then I can guarantee you will begin to feel more confident within a couple of weeks, but if you stop once your feeling more confident of yourself you will lose your confidence just as quickly. Remember to keep at it and keep coming back here to get more hints and tips to get you on the road to recovery. I recommend that you come back every week for new techniques that were not available before.
Who I am, and who You are...
So you woke up one morning and you thought to yourself, I could be so much more, or did you you wake up after a good dream and wish you hadn't, as you liked the dream more than the life you currently have??? If this sounds like you it's about time you decided to change your life. Now before you decide to jump right in and start a business either online or offline STOP AND THINK...
The chances are money will not make you love life, why? Simple you don't need money to like your life. Sure money helps, it helps a lot in fact. But it can't change your perception of yourself or your friends, no matter how much money you have if you don't like yourself or those people around you, you will still dislike them after acquiring some riches. After all the 1st key to acquiring riches is having the right mindset. How can you expect to have the right mindset when all you have is burning hate for who you've become?
I don't believe that anyone can or will become a (successful) entrepreneur if they don't a) like themselves and b) don't believe in themselves. That's why I'm going to help you.
So before we get started let me tell you a bit about myself quickly. My name is Ryan McCormack and at the time of writing I am 25 years of age. I don't have a fancy Job, quite the opposite, I work for Tesco Supermarket as a shelf stacker, I am currently starting up my own business, but that's for another blog. The one thing that sets me apart from you or who you think you are, is I believe in myself and actually like my life. I have two noisy kids who like to annoy me and live with my partner of 5 years who guess what? Likes to annoy me but I wouldn't have it any other way.
For around 6 years I have studied self change. I have both read and practiced self-confidence, after finding myself in the same situation as you back in 2005. Now that you have bothered to read this far shows me that you are serious about awakening the Sleeping Giant within. Well good for you and give yourself a pat on the back because I swear to you it will be the best decision you have ever made.
The chances are money will not make you love life, why? Simple you don't need money to like your life. Sure money helps, it helps a lot in fact. But it can't change your perception of yourself or your friends, no matter how much money you have if you don't like yourself or those people around you, you will still dislike them after acquiring some riches. After all the 1st key to acquiring riches is having the right mindset. How can you expect to have the right mindset when all you have is burning hate for who you've become?
I don't believe that anyone can or will become a (successful) entrepreneur if they don't a) like themselves and b) don't believe in themselves. That's why I'm going to help you.
So before we get started let me tell you a bit about myself quickly. My name is Ryan McCormack and at the time of writing I am 25 years of age. I don't have a fancy Job, quite the opposite, I work for Tesco Supermarket as a shelf stacker, I am currently starting up my own business, but that's for another blog. The one thing that sets me apart from you or who you think you are, is I believe in myself and actually like my life. I have two noisy kids who like to annoy me and live with my partner of 5 years who guess what? Likes to annoy me but I wouldn't have it any other way.
For around 6 years I have studied self change. I have both read and practiced self-confidence, after finding myself in the same situation as you back in 2005. Now that you have bothered to read this far shows me that you are serious about awakening the Sleeping Giant within. Well good for you and give yourself a pat on the back because I swear to you it will be the best decision you have ever made.
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